Life Update and College

Hey everyone! Sorry for not updating in such a long time. Life got insanely busy! I started college last fall and I was busy getting ready for that and just other major life changes.

College is a lot different than I expected. There are so many influences that can affect you. There is so much drinking in college and it can be hard to find friends who don't drink. If you have friends that drink, that is understandable. But if all they care about is drinking, and their party behavior influences your friendship, maybe you should find new friends. And of course, if you enjoy drinking, then you do you. Just because you drink and party does not make you a bad person as long as you are happy with your choices.

I have a few tips if you are going to be going to college soon, whether it be this spring or next fall. First, make sure to do your homework. Homework is insanely important in college and can be a deciding factor between an A and a B. Secondly, go to class. I know you are probably thinking you will go to class no matter what but trust me, the feeling of not wanting to go to class is very real. But if you don't go to class, you will miss critical information. For every class you skip, you waste around $10. Think about all the coffee you could buy with that money! Finally, AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, do not force friendship, and if you are having trouble finding friends, you are not alone. On move in day I was trying so hard to cling on to anyone who spoke to me. But what I realize now is you do not need to make friends right away. I didn't find my friends until about 4 weeks into school. Also, do not settle for friends who are not good friends. Find people you genuinely enjoy.

I will update again soon!

Update: November 2

Hey Guys!

So I was thinking I really want to get this blog up and running more. I'd love to get some followers on my Tumblr:  typical-teenage-life. That is the best way to get in touch with me on my posts and ask me questions and such. Talk to you all soon!

Hey Guys!

I am such a bad person I have not being keeping up on this like I should be. Life is crazy right now and I've been going through a lot of changes. Since the last time we talked, I've learned a lot about life. I am going to tell you some of these things and please talk to me if you have any questions or want to know more.

1. In high school, you are going to lose friends. I never believed people when they said that, but I have lost many friends. But I've also gained a lot. Basically, in high school you will learn who is really there to support you.
2. Don't let anyone tell you what you can and can't do. I had this story we had to write for a creative writing class. When I wrote this story, I thought it was really well written. I was in love with the story and couldn't be more excited to turn it in. Well, when I got it back I had received a really bad grade. My teacher hated it and gave me a bad grade just because he didn't agree with how the story ended. I was mad and hurt. I thought maybe I should stop writing stories. But I learned that just because he doesn't like my story doesn't mean I had to. Don't let others impact what you like.
3. If you have someone in your life who is making you miserable, DON'T LET THEM MAKE YOU FEEL THAT WAY! I'm still working on this one. I had a friend who made me feel like total crap. She always put me down and made fun of people close to me. I let her get to me and always got so insulted. I've learned that instead of blowing up in their face and telling them how you feel and expecting them to change isn't going to work. Just don't let it get to you. I know you are rolling your eyes because that's what I would do too. But trust me, since I've been ignoring the words coming out of her mouth, I've been much happier. But let me clarify, DON'T BE RUDE TO THEM! When I say ignore, I don't mean don't make eye contact or don't talk to them. I just mean that you can be nice, listen to them, laugh at their jokes, and just let them run their mouth. But you can listen and not take things to heart. For example, say your friend starts insulting your boyfriend. Instead of saying, "You are so annoying! Seriously stop talking like that!" Just laugh it off and pretend they never said that. Once you find a way to do this, life will improve.

That's all I have for today. I'll talk to you guys later!

Life...

         Sorry for the late post everyone! I have been meaning to get off my butt and write a post but I've been a busy girl. I had a mental breakdown on Thursday which had to do with school and my friends, and then it just went downhill from there. HOWEVER, yesterday I ran a 5K run for my aunt who passed away about 4 years ago. Although I didn't run the entire time, and I had an injury that made it hard to run in the final mile, I'm still proud of myself.

        Anyways, my post today will be focused on High School. Lately I've been seeing a lot of negative things posted about high school and how the system is flawed. I agree, high school sucks. You are forced to be with people you hate. You are stuck in a building for 8 hours. You can only move when the bell rings. People are constantly judging you. You have to keep up with your friends and boyfriend/ girlfriend. There is a lot of work and stress. But I have a question, can you find a better solution? Is there any other way to prepare teens for the real world? Personally, I don't see an alternative method. And frankly, high school is a decent representation of life. At work you will be with people you don't like, you have to work for long periods of time and don't get to move around often, people judge you, and on top of that you have to keep up any relationships you have. High school is hard because everyone is young. I have seen so many people ruining their lives in high school either from drugs or negative relationships. Your life is based on high school, which sucks, I understand. In high school your brain isn't fully developed and there are so many tempting things. Just keep yourself down to earth, work hard, and make sure to relax.

Letting Go

I learned today that sometimes all you can do is let go of negative thoughts. I had an something happen today and I was super upset at a person. But they were upset also, and I knew if I was mad it would only make things worse. I told myself to let it go and focus on helping them. Instead of being upset at a situation, think about the outcomes, positive and negative. Do what is best for not only yourself but for everyone involved.

How to Cope With Stress

Stress can come from all sorts of causers, friends, tests, homework, parents, pretty much anything. I get stressed from simple things like what I want to eat for dinner. Stress is a common part of life. I have many ways of dealing with my stress. In this post I will break it down by category of stress causers, and how to cope with each causer. 

General Stress: Stress that just comes with life.

1. Go for a walk: Going for a walk can help you clear your mind while also getting in a good work out! 
2. Listen to music: Personally, listening to music such as pop, rock, or metal increases my heart rate which only stresses me out more. I would suggest listening to slow, calming music. It will calm the stress sensors in your head and give you peace of mind. 
3. Take a nap: Sometimes all you can do is sleep the stress away.
4. Eat healthy: Eat a bowl of carrots, eat an apple, drink some milk.  

Stress From School: Have lots of homework to do? Tests to study for? These can help!

1. Do your homework: Although it is stressing you out, the best way to cope with homework stress is to do the homework. Worrying about doing your homework will just make it worse.
2. Reduce the amount of distractions: Work in a room with no electronics or people. (Unless you need them to do your homework)
3. STUDY!: The only way to prevent stress about a big test coming up is to study.

Stress From Family: Are your parents fighting? Your sibling picking on you? 

1. Leave the room: Go hide in your room for a while.
2. Listen to music: Unlike the first category, when you are stressed out by family it is best to listen to your favorite kind of music. 
3. Read a book: Trust me, it can be fun.
4. Watch a movie: My personal favorite is Grease.

Stress From Friends: This is one of the hardest causers of stress to handle. These tips also apply to boyfriend/girlfriend trouble.

1. Talk to them: Talking to the person who is causing the stress is the best way to fix the stress. Tell them why your upset! Sometimes they won't listen, and that is fine. It will show who is truly your friend. 
2. Tell someone else: Just venting your worries can help.
3. Take a break from who is causing stress: Get some space. 

That's all I have for today! I hope this post gave you some new ideas on how to cope with stress. And remember I'm always here to talk! Tumblr ----easiest way to contact me.

What is my Goal?

I thought I'd give a little more information on what this blog is meant for. I created my tumblr to vent my feelings about my life, and also show my journey of self discovery and my outlook in life. It started out as a way for me to get my feelings out in a personal way. However, I have realized that a lot of people are looking for advice, whether it be about family issues, friend drama, drug abuse, self harm, anything. I want to help. I decided to open up my tumblr for advice 24/7. I created this blog to make posts daily about my life and try to let people in on my journey of growing up and learning about life. I really would like to make this work, and in order to do that I need followers not only on this blog, but my tumblr. I would very much appreciate it if you read this to please follow me on tumblr, twitter (@Typ_Teen_Life), or on here. Thank you so much everyone!